Breakups

[peabrain]

How can one forget the one they love ?

[Seeker]

Hi "peabrain,"

I'm married now so I probably shouldn't be in this forum.  But from experience, I can only say that forgetting the one we love shouldn't be our goal.  Trust in God to lead you where He wants you to be and cooperate with His will and all will work out for the best. 

The woman I thought I loved and would marry is not the woman I married.  In hindsight, I see God's hand in it all, but at the time I thought my world was over.  It was only after I put the finding of my soulmate in God's hands that I met the woman I truly love and raised a family with.

[peabrain]

But the situation is what would be the goal the one you loved ditched you to serve Lord

[Seeker]

That's not an easy situation at all, peabrain.  I feel for you.

Trust in the Lord and He will comfort you and lead you to serve Him in ways you wouldn't have dreamed of  If you place the situation in His hands, you won't be disappointed. I know that's easy for me to say, not being in your situation right now, but it's the truth.  I don't pretend that's it's an easy thing to do, either.

I will pray for you, if you don't mind.

[Ajay]

But the situation is what would be the goal the one you loved ditched you to serve Lord

I've been in breakup situations before, though not exactly the one you are in.

I haven't forgotten them, but I have moved on. It hurts at first but have faith in God and have faith in yourself. It works!

And since I believe everything happens for the best and that God knows best, I think you should give this time.

[Melody]

Ah Deja Vu!

In August of 2000, I had the toughest decision of my life to make: Should I choose the guy (only guy!) I loved & was in a 4 year relationship with or should I choose the God I loved?

It was not a hard decision - because I knew in my head what the right answer was. Still my heart broke.

I made the right decision - telling my God - "I know God, that if You want to take this away from me, You have a better plan, You will provide...". If I sound very "holy holy", trust me, it wasn't easy everytime. There were many many many many times I wondered why I had thrown away the best person I had ever in my life (of course, then I remembered the circumstances & I knew).

My ex-friend has since married. I'm still not with anyone new (5 years!). And I wish to tell you that I still love him - in a good way - I don't feel for him the things I used to - but I still care about him deeply. When he met the girl he married, I was happy for him. When he was twice since promoted at work, I was happy for him.

We move on. People who've been close to us, needn't be cut off from our lives just because circumstances change. What we need to remember is:
(01) God loves us
(02) God is in Perfect Control of everything that happens

If the above is true, than He will NEVER let anything happen to us that will not be for our good. Remember Romans 8:28 "God works ALL things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose"

In 2002, I was called by the Lord to full time ministry. I know that if I was involved with anyone in the "outside" world, I would not be able to committ my life to the Lord as I did for the two years that followed. I know that I would not have been able to honestly ask the Lord - being completely ready to do ANYTHING He asked - if I should become a nun or get married.

He sent me back to this world. I know at the right time, the right person will come into my life. Until then, I will continue to stand in His strenght. It's hard, but nothing's impossible with God.

Blessings,

Melody

[Melody]

Oops.

I just re-read your post. And it seems that you were in my ex-partner's place not mine.... sorry to have subjected you to my long stories...!

In our case (I can't really say anything about you, since I don't know anything else), my ex-partner did not have a personal relationship with Jesus. He was (& is) a good person though & God blessed him abundantly. I know the whole thing was pretty hard on him too (though he was the one who finally ended it, based on an religious issue we couldn't agree on) but ultimately he moved on too. And as I said, today he's very happily married.

God is good & loves everyone equally, regardless of anything.

Keep yer chin up when you feel low, something good is in store

Blessings,

Melody