Virginity

[Ayodhya Nath Bhat]

Please let me have no holds barred honest opinion from all of you (with due apologies to my brother Rev Eric)

[Melody]

Option #3's what I went with, since we could pick only one. However here's what I would do:

(01) Ask my future spouse Before the wedding whether he was a virgin or not. And honestly it wouldn't matter to me if he wasn't as long as it was in the past, he had repented and given his life to Jesus. I know many young people who've had colorful pasts but are leading very good Christian lives.

(02) God forbid, if he lied to me & decided on our wedding night to shed the truth (!!!) then I would obviously go with option #3 (since I married him for better & for worse, lol) but also use option #5 making sure that he never lied/kept things from me again.

And I prob. would not let him have a very good wedding night either

[jesusandyou]

Good Qn. I don't think anyone ever going to face this problem in a simple fashion. In the first place how will you confirm the virginity is lost on your first day. You can if you have medical background. Still, there are lot of medical qns to be answered.

If you are concerned about the virginity of your spouse, ask your future spouse to go for a medical test. Parishes now need to have additional virginity check post   .

Let me put this way. The answer is very simple. Marriage is something God planned. You can't break it. What matters is whether your spouse will be honest to you as he vowed in the Church. Thats something you need to ask before the marriage. To err is human. To Forgive is marriage.

[Stigmata]

I would not expect my bride to be a virgin, but I do expect my wife to be faithful to me.

[mscht]

I went with option 5 myself. I would have already known this information long before I planned a wedding. That is just me though. Honestly, I wouldn't wan tto marry a virgin. I would feel guilty in some way and wonder if they wondered if there was anything better out there.  

[atheist1]

none of the options apply. I would have chosen "Doesn't matter" if that was an option and would have to agree with Stigmata, as long as she is faithful to me.

[royston]

Well... I would discuss this question up front before we got married... So it wouldn't really make much of a difference to me cause I would know before the wedding night... A marriage is based on trust, fidelity, and committment... As long as my spouse has made a decision to be faithful to me after we are married, what has happened before the marriage is not really relevant... I will only want to know that she has no strings attached to her past and that she is free to commit herself to me... And I will assure her of the same on my part....

I tried to view the poll results before voting... And then I got a message saying that I had already voted.. Can anyone tell me what happened?